My wife and I had a bit of a discussion regarding my weight loss. She is very happy for me and very supportive of my efforts. However, she showed some concern over my lack of a final goal.
I have plenty of intermediate weight loss goals, I hope to weigh 250 by the time the baby comes and I hope to be at 225 by Memorial Day(The "Beginning of Summer"). However there is no guarentee I am stopping my weight loss at that point. Why?
To be perfectly honest I do not know if I will be happy at 225. The last time I weighed 225 was when I was 14(ish), my body wasn't even finished growing. I have no recollection of what it felt like to weigh 225 or if I felt comfortable being 225. As far as I am concerned I have been overweight my whole life, I have no idea what a normal, comfortable, healthy weight for myself is.
I also do not buy that fact that since I am 5'11" I should weigh exactly 170 according to the medical weight charts. I am a 'big framed' boy. My shoulders are wide and my body is stocky. I do not believe that I will even look or feel good at the medically perfect weight of 170.
So what is my final goal? I do not know. But I hope to know when I get there. I just want to be happy, healthy and the right size for me. I will let you know when I get there. I will let everyone know when I get there.
Although my body type is the opposite of yours, I too have wrestled with this same question, "what is my final [weight] goal?"
I was born slightly premature, and quite small. All my life since then, I've been an ectomorph, measuring very light for my height (6'0", 135 lbs). It was a struggle for years, having relatives ask me at the annual holiday gatherings if I've lost weight and having friends joke about the need to gain mass.
Somewhere along the way I realized that my body had found it's own equilibrium. Compared to statistical norms I'm still thin, but I'm healthy and thriving. What else matters?
Here's hoping you find your own equilibrium soon. Having not seen you in months, I have to say the progress is amazing!